Everything you do is based on the choices you make…it’s not your parents, your past relationships, your job, the economy, the weather, an argument or your age that is to blame.
You and only you are responsible for every decision and choice you make.
–Dr. Wayne Dyer, American Philosopher and Self-Help Author, (1940-2015)
I like Dr. Dyer’s no-nonsense way of shellacking my ego. Reading this quote makes me feel “put into my place.” It effectively ends my pity party.
It is July. 2018 is half-over.
What have you accomplished so far this year?
What hasn’t changed? What would Wayne say?
Let’s discuss how you can do things differently, going forward. You’ve got 6 months to make 2018 one for the record books.
1. Reward yourself (and others) for progress thus far
Are you your own worst critic? Lighten up on yourself and recognize your successes, no matter how small. See the positive– that’s what the rest of us see in you! How tragic that we often see the good in others before we see the good in ourselves. I have a friend who noticed that sales and profits in her business are up — way up — so far this year. Instead of waiting for the Christmas party to show her appreciation to her employees, she is rewarding her staff mid-year with personalized, special gifts as a way to show her gratitude. She is thrilled to do this, and her staff is even further motivated to perform well for the remainder of the year. Remember, most people leave their jobs because they don’t feel valued or appreciated, not because of lack of pay.
2. Everyone has 24 hours.
“I don’t have time” is the grown-up version of “the dog ate my homework.” Sorry, but that just doesn’t cut it. We all have time and we fill that time with whatever we value and prioritize. So if you don’t have time to work out, you don’t have time to eat healthily, you don’t have time to talk, you don’t have time to keep yourself mentally or physically balanced, then that tells me you don’t value ANY of those things for yourself.
And that is your choice.
Keep it up and see how quickly you alienate people from your life.
3. Stop hiding.
Maybe your job, your living situation, or your relationship is complicated right now. Perhaps it is exhausting you, or at least, that’s what it feels like. This sort of mindset will exude from you like Pigpen’s cloud. Remember, you are choosing this life, this reality. Life is not something that happens TO you. You create it, and it is what YOU say it is. If you see your existence as tedious, then it damn well will be, each and every day. Try re-framing it. View your job, living situation, or relationship as a work in progress, with circumstances that are only temporary, or “gradually improving,” and feel your mindset and outlook improve. Language it accordingly, and stop saying how tired you are. Hiding behind your circumstances is not an excuse to be a shitty husband, wife, parent, son, daughter, employer or employee.
It’s July, 2018. Pull it together.
If pulling it together seems like a daunting task, I’m here to help. Together, we can map out your goals and put a strategy in place that serves you. I can help you “get out of your own way” when it comes to personal and professional success, in a way that is caring, supportive, and realistic. Message me for a free 30-minute session where we get clearly focused on your goals and identify the challenges that may be sabotaging personal growth and success.
Together, we can end 2018 on a high note.
Be Awesome – N